| A lot of guys are absolutely petrified when they | | | | 6 out of 10 times. |
| think about approaching a woman. Their throat | | | | Each time a player misses, he goes back to the |
| closes up, they have dry mouth, their blood | | | | dugout, figures out what went wrong with his |
| pressure and temperature rises. In other words, | | | | swing, and then corrects it. He doesn't fear the |
| they are so afraid of failing that they don't do | | | | failure, he embraces it as a way to learn. |
| anything. Instead, they let their fear control how | | | | Now let me make this real easy for you. You're |
| they act. | | | | going to fail. The question you have to ask |
| If you find yourself in this category, don't berate | | | | yourself is, "Do I want to learn from this, or just |
| yourself and make accusations toward your | | | | keep failing?" If you want to learn, then ask |
| manhood! As I said above, this happens to a LOT | | | | yourself these questions. |
| of guys. | | | | 1. How did I talk? Too fast? Too slow? Too |
| Just remember: Failure is a good thing. | | | | familiar? |
| "What? Are you nuts!" Think of it this way; when | | | | 2. Did she have a date with her? Was she with |
| you fail, you get a chance to learn. | | | | friends? Was she alone? |
| In baseball, a player goes up to bat. He swings, he | | | | 3. How were my conversation starters? Was the |
| misses. He may do this several times during the | | | | conversation interesting to her? |
| game. But, when he connects, it can be anything | | | | 4. Was I relaxed and confident? Was I funny? |
| from a base hit to a double, triple, or home run. | | | | Self-assessment is a great tool. It gives you a |
| Even baseball statistics declare that you'll miss | | | | chance to evaluate what you did right and wrong, |
| more than you'll hit. A .400 average is pretty | | | | which is the first steps to learning from your |
| good (unless your Derek Jeter who's average is | | | | mistakes. Just remember what you learned for |
| over .600). Basically, even a good player will miss | | | | the next time. |